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Still Talking

Today’s episode “Still Talking” is on Apple Podcasts, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn, Pocket CastStitcher, iHeartRadio, or anywhere you listen to podcasts.

Today we continue to talk about the effects of protests, the things we have learned in the past week, and more importantly what we are continuing to learn about ourselves, this country and our future. We are overwhelmed, but hopeful. We feel like we are in the chrysalis of massive change. Change that is painful, but very necessary. We have much more to learn and reflect on. There are things we look back on in order to learn from our mistakes, and new things we look forward to learning. We support those who protest for change and basic human decency, and we support those who put on their uniform every day to honestly and earnestly serve and protect their community. Much change is needed, we hope to be part of positive change.

Check out The Mugly Truth Podcast’s episode “Still Talking” on Apple Podcasts, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn, Pocket CastStitcher, iHeartRadio, or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Then all you need to do is 1) subscribe 2) download and 3) listen! AND!!! 4) If you enjoy what you hear, please leave a rating and a review (pretty please?). The more subscribers and reviews we get, the more opportunities we get to grow this podcast and bring you richer content.

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Episodes

The Expectation Trap

Today’s “The Expectation Trap” episode is on  iTunes/Apple PodcastsSpotifyOvercastLibsynPocket CastStitcher or anywhere you listen to podcasts.

In what is probably the loudest episode we’ve ever recorded (yes even more than the construction going on below Kris’ apartment), today we have kind of an inception-style show going on. While we were talking about how having expectations can be realistic or unrealistic, with either negative or positive outcomes depending on one’s perspective, there was a gardener doing his job on the property next door, using a leaf-blower as he got closer and closer to us. Literally, as we discuss how important it is to roll with the punches, Kris was losing her ever-loving mind in pure frustration while the constant whine of his equipment neared. Based on previous recordings in the same spot the expectation was that there would be nice ambient noises in the background…birds chirping, dogs barking, an occasional car or airplane. Boy did we have our “walk the talk” tested!! In the end, in post production the noise level was brought way down and the content of the episode was saved.

All in all some good points were made along the way. The biggest takeaway from this week’s epidode:

  • “Expectations are premeditated resentments.” Oooh. That’s a tough one to digest! But it’s so true!
  • It’s inhumane to expect another human being to fulfill you. Another person can enhance your happiness, but if you’re not happy with yourself, that other person isn’t going to do it for you.
  • Hope and expectation have a bit of a crowbar difference between the two, in our humble opinion. Hope seems to have a bit of a readiness to accept an outcome either way. Expectations seem more concrete. Which can leave room for disappointment.
  • Basing our happiness on the outcome of an expectation is a tricky game to play. Realistic expectations are good – they are based on past experiences that help us believe Doing A = B (like turning on a lightswitch illuminates a room or having that morning cup of coffee brings a sense of ahhhhhhhhhhhhh).
  • On the other hand, unrealistic expectations are based more in magical thinking, and can be quite damaging. Unreasonable expectations can cause low morale, low self-esteem, and damage relationships. Hey, we’re not citing any specific statement, article, or doctoral paper…we’re talking from personal experience! Trust us.
  • If you spend time worrying about something, you’re putting yourself through it TWICE. HullOOOO.
  • If someone says no, it’s because the request made of them does not fulfill their needs and wants at that time – it has nothing to do with the requestor, i.e., don’t take it personally.
  • Humans are…human. Flawed. We need to give ourselves a break, chill out…forgive ourselves and others when the occasional “failure to comply” occurs. Because it will.
  • And, in the words of our wonderful Kym, just because someone doesn’t text you back right away doesn’t mean they’re ignoring you…it could just mean they’re pooping. Or, you know, doing other things. Hey, she said it.
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Overcoming negative thoughts with positive thinking is vital in maintaining a good, daily mindset. Positive thoughts coupled with action can have powerful results.

Next time someone or some situation doesn’t live up to your expectations, take a moment to reflect…step away – mentally – and try to take in the whole picture. Is it worth yelling, getting angry, frustrated, sad, or resentful? Is it something you can accept and move on from? Learn from? Self reflection and acceptance doesn’t make anyone a doormat. It helps us grow. It helps guide us in making decisions about the people or situation that we are coping with. It also helps prevent knee-jerk reactions that could make the outcome worse.

The Psychology Today article, The Psychology of Expectations by John A. Johnson, PhD., is located here.

Check out our “The Expectation Trap” episode on  iTunes/Apple Podcasts, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn, Pocket CastStitcher or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Then all you need to do is 1) subscribe 2) download and 3) listen! AND!!! 4) If you enjoy what you hear, please leave a rating and a review (pretty please?). The more subscribers and reviews we get, the more opportunities we get to grow this podcast and bring you richer content.

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© The Mugly Truth 2019 and © The Mugly Truth Podcast 2019. All rights reserved.
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The Mugly Mindset

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Kris and Kym talk about the latest Mindset List!

Greetings friends! Today marks a solemn and life-altering anniversary in the lives of hundreds of thousands of souls world wide. Of course, we’re talking about 9/11. We didn’t set out to do an episode about 9/11 today. The episode we are airing was recorded a couple weeks ago, with no thought of calendar, dates, or timely topics. We didn’t even know 9/11 fell on a Tuesday this year. So when it came time to schedule the episode we recorded for today, we realized it wasn’t quite appropriate when it finally dawned on us what day today is. So we swapped episodes. Ironically enough, we DO talk about 9/11 to some degree in this episode (which we absolutely swear on our Keurig’s life was unintentional!), so in the end, the Universe has a way of making things work out.

Today we talk about the Mindset List for the Class of 2022. This list comes out of Beloit College in Wisconsin. The list began as an email back in the 1990s and has now become a full-fledged “thing” with a website, books, and oh so much more. On their website, they describe the origin and function of the list this way: “The Mindset List has delighted millions for over a decade about what has “always” or “never” been true for entering college students. It was created at Beloit College in 1998 to reflect the world view of entering first year students, and started with the members of the class of 2002, born in 1980.”

For more history about The Mindset List (because we do not want to claim any credit for any of this writing whatsoever! It’s all theirs!!!), go to THIS link.

Ahem. Now for our words: Basically it began as a way for professors to share tips and tricks for wrapping their heads around the things their new students either take for granted or never will experience in their lifetimes. For us, and our listeners, and anyone interested in this amazing list, it’s a way to expand your perception, look at the generation gap issues, and connect with the youngsters (prolly gonna be known as the iGens…) in a way you might not have thought of before.

And, of course, one of the things that came up in our discussion is the fact that Kris’ kids will never know what it’s like to go to an airport without a TSA security line…or waiting at the gate with loved ones, kissing them as they board the walkway, and standing at the window waving as the plane taxis away. They’ll never know that because their world exists AFTER 9/11/2001.

So. First of all. Hug all your friends and family, tell them you love them and take a look around and truly appreciate everything you have (and don’t have). Take time to make a bit of positive change, try a little more kindness, tolerance, and grace. Try repeating a little more of that each day, after you’ve perfected your technique on this very sacred day of rememberence. Maybe if we all do that we can effect longterm, beautiful change in the lives of all those around us.

In the meantime, move over Millennials. Take a chill pill GenXers. Sit back and relax and let the Mugly Truth tell you all about the new wave of kiddos and how their world stacks up to ours. To hear about the Mindset List, check out the newest episode, The Mugly Mindset, on  iTunes and Apple Podcasts, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn, Pocket Casts, Stitcher, (we are working on GooglePlay too for Android listeners!!) or any podcast player you prefer and then subscribe, download and listen! If you enjoy what you hear, please leave a review! The more subscribers and reviews we get, the more opportunities we get to grow this podcast and bring you richer content.

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