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Still Talking

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Today we continue to talk about the effects of protests, the things we have learned in the past week, and more importantly what we are continuing to learn about ourselves, this country and our future. We are overwhelmed, but hopeful. We feel like we are in the chrysalis of massive change. Change that is painful, but very necessary. We have much more to learn and reflect on. There are things we look back on in order to learn from our mistakes, and new things we look forward to learning. We support those who protest for change and basic human decency, and we support those who put on their uniform every day to honestly and earnestly serve and protect their community. Much change is needed, we hope to be part of positive change.

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The Best Is Yet To Come

Today’s episode “The Best Is Yet To Come” is on iTunes/Apple Podcasts, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn, Pocket CastStitcher, iHeartRadio, or anywhere you listen to podcasts.

Hello all! We’re talking about the best days to do things in January 2020! Before you get all packed up for some tropical cruise ship getaway, or strap on glittery stilettos for some epic concert based on our episode, relax. Calm thyself. We’re talking ’bout such wholesomeness as canning, brewing, breeding, and pruning. That’s right. Toss those stilettos and pull on those work boots! Snap those suspenders, comb that incredibly long yet surprisingly attractive beard and get ol’ Nellie out of the barn for a cruise around the wheat field. We’re going old school with ye Old Farmer’s Almanac (not to be confused with that young whippersnapper Farmer’s Almanac) to titillate you with all the Best Days To Do Stuff First Quarter of 2020. YEEHAW LET’S DO THIS!

PSST! Hey. Listen. The online list only covers the first quarter of the year…we’re pretty sure you have to buy the Almanac for the entire year’s list. Oh, they’re sly ones, they are.

Don’t know the difference between Old Farmer’s Almanac and Farmer’s Almanac? Well, they’re both almanacs, they both have the word Farmer’s in them. But the likeness doesn’t stop there. They’re both filled with all kinds of goodness like gardening tips, astronomy, folkore, predicting trends for the coming year and most importantly: weather forecasts. They are both still in publication to this day. The biggest difference is that the Old Farmer’s Almanac has been in publication since 1792. Farmer’s Almanac since 1818. So settle down junior. Make way for gramps. If only because OFA’s list of Best Days (written by Celeste Longacre) serves this episode. Otherwise we tip our hats to both of you for looking so great for your ages. A little dusty, but aren’t we all after a certain, ah, amount of trips around the sun. We’re sure there’s plenty of distinctive elements between the two publications, but we haven’t got all day folks. We’re a humorous (questionable some might say), lighthearted podcast, not CNN. For the Wikipedia version of events, read about the auld geezer here, and the young upstart here.

As always, before we get into the hot topic of best days to cut your hair to encourage growth, brew beer, or breed that bull in the north forty, otherwise known as the actual topic of our episode, we bandy about the airwaves (not really…it’s digital…it’s…there’s no airwaves…) in our ramblings, bringing up all kinds of questions and the usual misnomers. So let us tary nae longer and get right to the links post-haste:

Kym and the Fuggler Lucy doooooon’t likey.
  • Kym’s Fuggler. Yes. Here is the duo who made Lucy the cat barf. It’s a great story, go listen to the episode for the full effect. Just know, these are the culprits, and you can buy your very own Fuggler right here to cause your own personal pet mayhem. Or simply chill with because they’re freaking cute. Also we love our cats beyond the Universe, so don’t come at us man.
  • Cat vs. Coyotes. Max is one scrappy cat! Thankfully Max’s human’s heard the ruckus their fierce warrior boy was putting up against three coyotes. The video is a bit harrowing, as it looks like the end is near for this little tuxedo fighter (SNIFF!!!! Rocky the Podcat is a tuxedo – and was almost killed by coyotes a couple years ago!) but thankfully his humans came out and chased off the predators, bringing their good, brave boy inside safe and sound. WE LOVE MAX.
  • Don’t F*ck With Cats. BEFORE YOU CLICK THAT LINK to the article, just know there is a photo of a monster holding a kitten. It’s not horrific in it’s own right, but knowing what that POS did to that kitten…just be warned. So. This is a difficult one. If you’re a true crime follower you may have heard about this story when it came out a few years ago. This controversial documentary chronicles the social media sleuths who helped pinpoint a murderer down to the apartment in which he lived in Toronto! Unfortunately the police didn’t take them seriously. If they had, maybe the horror would have stopped with the kittens. Maybe this murderer’s human victim, Jun Lin, would be alive today. Be warned: even though the Netflix documentary doesn’t show the actual cruelty to the kittens or Lin, it does show parts of the videos that were aired on YouTube. If you can’t handle violence, implications of violence, or violence against animals (i.e., if you’re a normal, not psychopathic/sociopathic human being with a beating heart and a soul) it’s still – in our minds – too much to bear. Kris fast forwarded past the abridged clips. In her humble opinion showing the clips even to the extent they did had no redeeming effect on the story being told. However, the document IS worth watching if only to meet Baudi Moovan (Deanna Thompson) and John Green. Just keep your remote at the ready and be on deck with the loud LALALALLALLALAAAS until you’re past the “bad parts.” Just one more thing: the jab at the end. Really Netflix? REALLY?
  • Canadian Justice. Speaking of putting monsters away for life…or not, here’s more information on Canada’s stance on violent offenders. While, ah, people, like Karla Homolka and Vince Li/Will Baker are free to roam about the country, it seems perhaps Canadian lawmakers are taking a more conservative stand on the subject these days? Yes? No? We’re not educated enough in the subject to make any unequivocal statements one way or another in this space at this time, so feel free to research for yourself and let us know what you come up with. We believe people can change and we believe people can make one incredibly horrible mistake based on piles and piles of extenuating circumstances. We also know people who are pigeon-holed by society without benefit of society getting to know them personally are basically doomed to a lifetime of trying to prove they’re not the same person they were 5, 10, 20 years ago. We do get it. We’re just not sure we’re comfortable with some people free to attend PTA meetings, soccer games and gnosh poutine at their local Tim Horton’s after beheading and eating a person or drugging and murdering their own sister. You know. That’s…that’s all we’re saying.
  • ANYTHING OTHER THAN CANADIAN MONSTERS. How about that Wolf Moon, eh? If you’re like Kris you missed it both nights even after your podcast cohost told you it was coming. January’s full moon (the first of the decade) is known as “Wolf Moon” in North America, as well as Old Moon and Ice Moon. Well, if you missed it by any of those names, we’ve got you covered. Here you go.
  • Finland For The Win. Unbelievable. Kris got the country correct. We think a celebration is in order. It’s just that Kakslauttanen Resort name she couldn’t quiiiiiiiiite capture. You’ve got to check it out. What a way to see the Aurora Borealis. So cool. Literally. TBH, frigid, more like.
  • What the Heck is Calico? Calico Ghost Town! It’s a favorite haunt (ahaaahahaa see that? We’re smart funny!) way out in Yermo, CA. And after a day of walking ye olde 1800’s western town, checkin’ out the mystery shack or panning for gold, drive into the Mid-20th-Century over at Peggy Sue’s Diner up the road. Order a milk shake, burger and fries and then spend what little money you have left on Americana tchotchkes – there’s enough Coca-Cola, Lucy, Elvis, Marilyn, Dean, and Judy Made-In-China curios to fill a small warehouse. It’s all a fun, if a bit touristy, experience.

Thank you for joining us. Check out The Mugly Truth Podcast’s episode “The Best Is Yet To Come” on  iTunes/Apple Podcasts, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn, Pocket CastStitcher, iHeartRadio, or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Then all you need to do is 1) subscribe 2) download and 3) listen! AND!!! 4) If you enjoy what you hear, please leave a rating and a review (pretty please?). The more subscribers and reviews we get, the more opportunities we get to grow this podcast and bring you richer content.

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Transgender Awareness

Participate in International Transgender Day of Visibility by asking questions and having an honest conversation.

Today we talk with Terin, a long-time friend who is one of the most inspirational people we know for lots and lots of reasons. She joins us to discuss being the parent of a transgender daughter, and how having Vivian come out was a “non-issue” for their family. International Transgender Day of Visibility is right around the corner (March 31) and we can’t think of a better way to participate.

Unfortunately, as we see every day on the news, on the internet, and on the streets, this loving acceptance of one’s child becoming authentically themselves and empowered is much rarer than it should be. We’re hoping discussions like ours can help add to the awareness about the struggles and accomplishments of men and women (and in some cases, young adults, teens and pre-teens – see below) who have taken the steps to finally be the people they were born to be in the face of hatred, ridicule, violence, and often rejection by the people who are supposed to love them the most: their families and friends.

According to www.healthychildren.org, the development of gender identity in kids naturally occurs when children are very young. Kids label themselves as boy or girl by the age of three and have a strong sense of their gender identity by four, usually showing their gender preference through the type of clothes they want to wear, hair styles, etc. As gender stereotypes dissolve, the colors, clothing, styles, and even toys that are typically assigned “boy” or “girl” are changing. For parents who simply want a healthy, happy child, it’s important to know kids naturally are curious and might express themselves in different ways at different times. It’s important to allow them to navigate through the stages of this development.

Happy healthy children grow up to be happy healthy adults. We need more of both.

As for us, we have never had an issue with our bodies (save for the usual suspects, “my butt’s too big!” “I hate my stomach!” and “I wish I was taller!”) and have always loved being women, never had any thought of being anything else. The concept of being a woman trapped in the body of a man (or a man trapped in a woman’s body) is so far removed from our psyche, it’s almost impossible to wrap our heads around how utterly miserable it must be – every single day and night – to struggle with knowing you are definitely a specific person but looking like someone you aren’t. It’s hard enough to feel comfortable in your own skin, let alone your own structure. This is the crux of our awkwardness with the topic. It has nothing to do with acceptance, that’s not the problem. It’s that we are so rooted in our own natural acceptance of our birth body that it never dawned on us there could be any other way to feel.

We want to learn and understand better. So we asked…what IS cis-gender (we are, turns out), binary/non-binary, gender-fluid? How do you refer to a transgender person if you aren’t sure (hint: even though it might be awkward, asking outright is usually the easiest way to set things on the right track). How did the rest of the family take the transition? What’s politically correct to say or talk about? What are the biggest struggles? What was the hormone therapy process like? What was it like to come up with a new name? What happens if you have to go to the bathroom? (Vivian’s reality regarding this basic need that most of us take for granted was unjust and awful.) And if you need help, where do you turn to for support and answers? (Another hint: GLAAD.org is a great starting point). We also learn the best answer a parent can give to the question, “will your child have gender reassignment surgery?”

Justice, equality and awareness is in our hands.

We know it’s really difficult for some people to understand. We get it. Whether the discomfort is based on religious beliefs, politics, or personal fear of what isn’t one’s norm, it is difficult to face any level of change. Either in others or ourselves, let alone a change as radical as gender transition. But the truth is, this world desperately needs happy, authentic humans. The more we cut down what we don’t understand…either through violence or cruelty…the more base and inhumane we become. If a person – a fundamentally good and civil soul – is of a religion, sexual orientation, ethnicity, or identity that doesn’t match someone’s expectations of what is “right” or “normal” who exactly is anyone to determine that? Why? The fact is, for every one person who stands firm and resolute in their belief system, there is another person standing equally firm and resolute in their opposing beliefs. As long as people keep focused on only one possible outcome, only one possible reality, we will all only be just standing angrily, shouting, pointing and name calling, in the name of a so-called “truth” and nothing changes. Nothing resolves. Nothing heals. Any man, woman or child who dares to stand in their own power in the face of hatred is a hero in our book. Any man, woman or child who dares face their own failings to show acceptance, tolerance or respect toward someone they once viewed as “too different”…is also a hero. Someday hopefully it will just be normal instead of heroic.

It is our hope to talk to Vivian, get her story first hand. We’ve heard her mom’s story, so hopefully we can do justice to Viv’s. Terin is an amazing mom, a woman who has struggled through some tough times, like many. Her cellular makeup is one of non-bias, peace, and acceptance. She admits her own learning curves when it comes to the transgender community while embracing the “normalness” of her child becoming happy and healthy through the transition process. As for Vivian, she is a delightful person who has a story to tell and we are honored to record it. Hopefully that episode will be coming in the next few weeks.

Until then, here are some people we’d like you to know more about:

  • Janae Marie Kroczaleski, ex marine, cancer survivor, 2006 Arnold Classic WPO Powerlifting Middle Weight Champion, 2009 All-Time World Record setter in the 220lb class (surpassed in 2010), parent to three amazing boys, advocate for transgender athletes, author, and current subject of the Netflix documentary “TransFormer.” The show chronicles Janae’s biggest journey in reconciling her passion for power lifting with the body it gave her…a body she did not envision for herself as a woman. She discusses the documentary in this YouTube video. You can also follow her on Instagram to keep up with her inspirational story.
  • Jazz Jennings, one of the youngest people to publicly come out as transgender, and interviewed by Barbra Walters on 20/20 in 2007. Jazz is a YouTube sensation and at only 17 is an internationally recognized advocate for LGBTQ rights. She is the star of TLC’s, reality series “I am Jazz” which documents the life of the teenager and her family.
  • Amber Briggle of Denton, Texas, USA. Mom to two amazing kids, Amber documents the daily life of her family, including her son Max who made it very clear at a young age that the female anatomy he was born with was not who he truly was. Amber shares candidly about the struggles her son faces going to school, and growing up in a notoriously conservative region of the United States. Get onboard with this mamabear at her website https://love-to-the-max.com/ .
  • If you haven’t watched Schitt’s Creek yet, you’re missing out. All the Canadian comedy royalty (Catherine O’Hara, you are our queen) aside, Dan Levy – Yep, Eugene Levy’s drop-dead gorgeous, wickedly funny son – has created some of the most hilarious, romantic, and memorable scenes between his character, David Rose, and David’s boyfriend Patrick (played by Noah Reid).

If you want to know about more amazing people who, against major societal pushback, became who they truly were born to be, there are some pretty cool stories that span almost 100 years in this time.com article, and in this Pri.org article.

Check out our “Transgender Awareness” episode on  iTunes/Apple Podcasts, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn, Pocket CastStitcher or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Then all you need to do is 1) subscribe 2) download and 3) listen! AND!!! 4) If you enjoy what you hear, please leave a rating and a review (pretty please?). The more subscribers and reviews we get, the more opportunities we get to grow this podcast and bring you richer content.

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#BalanceForBetter

Today we celebrate International Women’s Day 2019! Yes, it was March 8th, but we are promoting this year’s theme “Balance for Better” and encourage our listeners to share their favorite stories – personal or otherwise – with the hashtag #BalanceForBetter in all your social media platforms! The hope for this year is to bring about a more gender-balanced world, so share the achievements, courage, generosity, and journey of women who inspire you!

Our very favorite symbol of female strength!
We Can Do It!” poster for Westinghouse, closely associated with Rosie the Riveter, although not a depiction of the cultural icon itself. Model may be Geraldine Doyle (1924-2010) or Naomi Parker (1921-2018). Artist J. Howard Miller (1918–2004), employed by Westinghouse which used the poster for the War Production Co-ordinating Committee. Image source: Wikipedia commons, public domain – from scan of copy belonging to the National Museum of American History, Smithsonian Institution, retrieved from the website of the Virginia Historical Society.

WHO TO WATCH: Emma Watson (HeForShe campaign speech), Meghan Markle (Meghan Markle UN Women speech), and this powerhouse Greta Thunberg (full speech at UN Climate Change COP24 Conference) are MUST-SEE videos, especially if you think women are the weaker sex. They’re here to tell you NOPE.”

-The Mugly Truth

We talk about the values internationalwomensday.com focus on in their efforts to educate about and encourage women’s rights globally, some disturbing statistics about women and girls around the world, and mention a few amazing women whose achievements have made living in today’s world a much better experience: Marie Curie, Susan B. Anthony, Soong Mei-Ling, Sacagawea, Emmeline Pankhurst, and Hedy Lamarr, among others.

We know we just scratch the surface with a small number of stories about powerful, world-changing women, because there are so many hundreds of thousands stories of amazing women in today’s world and throughout history: Harriet Tubman, Rosa Parks, Ada Lovelace, Eleanor Roosevelt, Lady Diana Spencer, Amelia Earhart, Mary Seacole, Mother Theresa, Indira Gandhi…for a great read please go to biographyonline.net’s article about women who changed the world and become wildly inspired.

We wrap it up – or detour, yet again – by bringing up a controversial story (see correction below about Jane Fonda) which led to tackling some fairly deep issues about being accountable for wrongdoing, and how long should society continue to punish a person for their mistakes. Today’s episode is starts off about women’s rights, but we end up talking about justice in general.

Fact-checking and updates for today’s episode:

  • Please read the linked article on Hedy Lamarr mentioned above, but as a quick correction on Kris’ comment about Ms. Lamarr’s invention: Lamarr partnered with George Anthiel to invent “frequency hopping,” an unbreakable code that manipulated radio frequencies at irregular intervals, preventing third party interference. The invention had the potential to keep classified messages from being intercepted by enemy personnel signals; specifically, it was designed to prevent the Nazi’s from interfering with a ship’s torpedoes. Although she and Anthiel received a patent for their invention, they donated it to the Navy. The technology was too complicated to put into action during WWII, but it was implemented later during the Cuban Missile Crisis. The technology Lamarr invented was the beginning of the technology boom which allows us to use wireless communication. Perhaps Alexa should have been named Hedy? Hedy Lamarr died in 2002 of congestive heart failure, at the age of 85. Kris mistakenly thought she passed away at a younger age.
  • The actual lyric to the Disney song “Sister Suffragette“, composed by Robert B. Sherman and Richard M. Sherman, performed by Glynis Johns, Hermione Baddeley and Reta Shaw, from the film “Mary Poppins” is: “Take heart, for Mrs. Pankhurst has been clapped in irons again!” Kris mistakenly ((((kept)))) singing “Emmeline Pankhurst has been clapped in irons again!” Oh, Kris. Sooooooo close.
  • On Jane Fonda: the very popular story that Jane passed messages from POWs to the Vietnamese captors is an urban legend. While neither of us assert the allegations about Ms. Fonda as true, we do discuss her controversial actions during the war, including the possibility that she did pass notes. Please read details here and here .
  • Regarding Coco Chanel’s alleged Nazi affiliation, please read here and here.
  • For information about the Netflix documentary of women in India creating their own sanitary pads, “Period. End of Sentence,” please read here.
  • The artist who created the “We Can Do It” poster was J. Howard Miller, not Howard J. Miller.

Check out our “#BalanceForBetter” episode on  iTunes/Apple Podcasts, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn, Pocket CastStitcher or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Then all you need to do is 1) subscribe 2) download and 3) listen! AND!!! 4) If you enjoy what you hear, please leave a rating and a review (pretty please?). The more subscribers and reviews we get, the more opportunities we get to grow this podcast and bring you richer content.

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