Episodes

Call Me Korgia

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Fangirl Alert! Listen to “CALL ME KORGIA” on iTunes, Spotify, Overcast, Google Play, or wherever you listen to podcasts!
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Before we get into the details of today’s episode, Call Me Korgia, let’s say HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO OUR VERY BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFUL KYM!! TODAY is Kym’s birthday and we wish her all the best!

So! Happy Birthday and Happy Tuesday!! Today’s episode is allllllll about the serious, hardcore fangirling over and paying an homage to Kym and Kris’ most favorite podcast, My Favorite Murder. Karen Kilgariff and Georgia Hardstark, hosts of the epically popular podcast, are the ladies who inspired us to get into podcasting. When we started we had no delusions we could do anything at the level of these two amazing women, but we knew we wanted to podcast  anyway. And so we did with coffee mugs in one hand, mics in the other, and a whooooole lot of opinions, stories, and laughter. And we have loved every minute of it from day one.

As a birthday kickoff for Kym, we went to the January 11, 2019, My Favorite Murder podcast live show at the Civic Theater in San Diego, CA. After the show, we met Karen and Georgia where we were able to thank them (profusely) for inspiring us. In today’s episode we recount the mega highs and the very few (only one actually) annoying lows of the night. Oh, and there’s Kym’s especially slick maneuver at the meet and greet. That’s our girl, Kym.

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Waiting for Georgia and Karen in San Diego Civic Theater January 11, 2019, My Favorite Murder.
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Karen and Georgia sit down to talk murder, San Diego Civic Theater, January 11, 2019, My Favorite Murder
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The moment we got our act together and got to thank Karen and Georgia for inspiring us to start podcasting.

The second half of the episode segues into a very MFM-tributesque recounting of two stories from our travels: The “Blood Countess” Elizabeth Bathory of Slovakia, and the underground area of Edinburgh, Scotland called “Mary King’s Close“, where people spent generations living, working, and dying in darkness.

Kym talks about how Elizabeth Bathory and her husband reigned bloody supreme (literally) as sado-masochists in their castle (now in ruins) on a hill in Slovakia. But it wasn’t until after the death of her husband that Elizabeth’s unbridled vanity and penchant for fatal torture earned her the reputation as being history’s most prolific female serial killer. Elizabeth believed the blood of virgins would keep her young (sound like any bloodsucker you’ve heard of?), so she took advantage of her social standing to get as many into her clutches as possible. Spoiler alert: she was caught, but she is proof that the rich and powerful could (and still can to this day) literally get away with murder because although Elizabeth’s servants – who were forced to do her disgusting dirty work – were put to death for their participation in her schemes, Elizabeth was merely sentenced to live out the rest of her days in her own home. Did we mention she lived in a castle? Tsk. Poor, poor, bloody Elizabeth.

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Countess Elizabeth Bathory, the first female serial killer in history. Photo courtesy of Wikipedia, artist and copyright unknown.

 

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Ruins of Elizabeth Bathory’s castle. Photo courtesy of Wikipedia.

While there’s no murder and intrigue in Kris’ story, there is definitely creepiness and death as she talks about the history of Mary King’s Close, and how part of the current city of Edinburgh was built right over the top of existing streets, businesses and homes, some still intact. Despite the lack of sunshine and fresh air, life continued underground for many of the poorest folk for generations, even when the plague devastated almost half the population of Edingurgh in the 1600s. In fact, underground was where the plague victims were quarantined (albeit provided for), until the devastating disease ran its course. One of the plague’s most famous victims, little Annie, still receives gifts to this day as visitors try to help alleviate her sorrow of being abandoned by her parents as she died a slow and pitiful death in the darkness of Mary King’s Close.

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The actual Mary King’s Close, with props to recreate what life was like in the underground “city”. Photo courtesy of Wikipedia, photo by The Continnuum Group
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Model of Mary King’s Close, Edinburgh, Scotland. Photo by Kristen Core.
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Plaque describing the model of Mary King’s Close, Edinburgh, Scotland. Photo by Kristen Core.
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What a typical close looks like, open to the fresh sky. Photo courtesy WordPress Free Library, by Pixabay

Oh…and the city mentioned by Kris as being the home of the “Cathedral of Bones” near Budapest is called Kutná Hora and the “Church of Bones” is named Sedlec Ossuary. Here’s a look at some of the eerie, beautiful craftsmanship inside the church. Yep. Those are human bones.

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Photo of the Bone Church, Sedlec Ossuary in Kutná Hora Hungary, Photo courtesy of Wikipedia, by Pudelek (Marcin Szala)

Check out our CALL ME KORGIA episode on  iTunes/Apple Podcasts, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn, Pocket CastStitcher or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Then all you need to do is 1) subscribe 2) download and 3) listen! AND!!! 4) If you enjoy what you hear, please leave a rating and a review (pretty please?). The more subscribers and reviews we get, the more opportunities we get to grow this podcast and bring you richer content.

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Episodes

New Year Resolutions

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BRING IT ON 2019
Ciao 2018! Don’t let the door hit you on the tuchas! Hello 2019! Bring. It. On.

Happy Tuesday and HAPPY NEW YEAR! Goodbye 2018 you BEEEYOTCH. Today we talk about New Year resolutions. You either love them or hate them, you either keep them or break them. What are your resolutions for this year? Any money on the table on how fast you are going to wash your hands of them? Or do you have a wonderful, healthy strategy for helping you succeed in your life changes?

Today is all about the most common resolutions people make. We talk about the average time it takes for people to break their resolutions but also cover ideas about how to create realistic goals and the tools that are available to help keep you on track. So if you’re wanting to stop smoking, start working out, meditate, eat healthy, read more, learn a new skill, take up a hobby, fulfill a bucket list, lose weight, be more positive, travel more, get a new job, buy a house, save money….guess what: there’s an app for helping you with that.

We also talk about our own goals and strategies. Any bets on the first resolution we talk about NOT trying to do?

Hint: it’s fucking obvious, duh.

** side-eye **

But no matter what happens with our personal resolutions, we do resolve as your cohosts and cohorts to bring you 52 weeks of non-stop chatter, mispronounced words, creative facts, laughter, and lots of opinions. You’re welcome. SO…here’s to more coffee, more abstract conversations, and lots and lots of goofiness. Bring it on 2019. We are ready to meet you head on.

Good luck with your own goals, and we wish you all good health, beautiful love, joyfulness, prosperity, and friendship! We are excited to bring you a brand new year of fun and thank you for all your support!

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Check out our NEW YEAR RESOLUTIONS episode on  iTunes/Apple Podcasts, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn, Pocket CastStitcher or anywhere you listen to podcasts. Then all you need to do is 1) subscribe 2) download and 3) listen! AND!!! 4) If you enjoy what you hear, please leave a rating and a review (pretty please?). The more subscribers and reviews we get, the more opportunities we get to grow this podcast and bring you richer content.

And don’t forget to follow us here at themuglytruth.com (click that blue WordPress Follow button on the right side of your screen) so you get notifications every time we post an episode blog! You can also follow The Mugly Truth on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.

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Episodes

Revelationships

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Have you ever been so in love you feel like the honeymoon will never end…but then…one day…the façade cracks and the light of reality seeps (or crashes) in and you ask yourself, “who the hell is this person?” and end up berating yourself for ending up with someone who mistreats you?

Today we pick up on a topic touched on in a couple recent episodes (Only Brats and Social Picks): abusive relationships.  Yeah, it’s a pretty heavy topic, we know. But – like we do – we talk about what’s important to our hearts and minds but somehow throw in a few zingers which cause us to laugh uproariously. It’s a strange mix of serious and goofy but somehow it all seems to work.

We talk about possessiveness, affairs, estrangement, palming money, wedding music drama, low-flying helicopters, and happily-ever-afters, just to name a few.  It’s like a miniature Jerry Springer show right in our recording studio (aka Kris’ living room).

We are joined by Stacy, who talks about how she successfully escaped an emotionally abusive marriage. Stacy is fortunate because her experience didn’t escalate into chronic violence (or worse) like so many stories you hear about on the news. Her story is a platform to highlight the various signs of possible trouble brewing in the early stages of a dangerous relationship. (A list of the signs of abuse is available below).

To hear our Revelationships episode, go to iTunes, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn or any podcast player you prefer and then subscribe, download and listen! If you enjoy what you hear, go ahead and leave a review! The more subscribers and reviews we get, the more opportunities we get to grow this podcast and bring you richer content.

And don’t forget to follow us here at themuglytruth.com (click that blue WordPress Follow button on the right side of your screen) so you get notifications every time we post an episode blog! You can also follow The Mugly Truth on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.

So, yeah, it’s mostly fun and games at The Mugly Truth,  but rest assured, we take domestic violence VERY SERIOUSLY. Therefore we also cover resources on the internet to check out (with safety measures in place) if you feel you or someone you love may be in an abusive relationship. That said, below is a more detailed list of the resources we talk about in the show.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: FINDING HELP

If you or someone you know may be in danger of any form of domestic abuse whether it’s physical, psychological/mental/emotional/gaslighting, financial, stalking, teenage relationships abuse, or elderly abuse, there are plenty of resources on the internet, and many have safety checks in place so that you can escape the website in one click if necessary.  Please remember, it is highly unlikely you will be able to entirely hide or clear your browsing history, but you can use an “incognito” option in your browser (how-to here) to help make it more difficult for someone to easily search your history. There are also toll-free numbers to call if you can’t safely search the internet for help.

Although the contacts below are US- and UK-based organizations, please note the DASH (2009) Risk Assessment form discussed below can be used by anyone, anywhere to help determine if there is danger of abuse in a relationship. If you are not in the US or UK, you can visit here for a list of international domestic abuse hotlines as a starting point, or call any of the numbers below and they may be able to get you the information you need for local help. As with EVERYTHING in today’s world, be very careful about where you search, and understand what you are clicking on, or numbers you are calling…be aware of phishing. Since domestic violence naturally indicates vulnerability on the part of the searcher, there are ASSHOLES in the world who will take advantage of that. So be sure whomever you contact is through a verified, safe site. The lists below are sites personally visited by Kris while researching this week’s episode:

In the US

The National Domestic Violence Hotline

You can get anonymous, confidential help 24/7 by calling the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE) or 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) now. The NDV website has numerous resources for getting help, finding support, and a safety plan for leaving your relationship.

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

+1 303 839 1852 (Denver, CO)

The NCADV website has resources for getting help, webinars, events, support, and details about types of abuse as well as signs of abuse, which include (copied from the NCADV page):

  • Telling the victim that they can never do anything right
  • Showing jealousy of the victim’s family and friends and time spent away
  • Accusing the victim of cheating
  • Keeping or discouraging the victim from seeing friends or family members
  • Embarrassing or shaming the victim with put-downs
  • Controlling every penny spent in the household
  • Taking the victim’s money or refusing to give them money for expenses
  • Looking at or acting in ways that scare the person they are abusing
  • Controlling who the victim sees, where they go, or what they do
  • Dictating how the victim dresses, wears their hair, etc.
  • Stalking the victim or monitoring their victim’s every move (in person or also via the internet and/or other devices such as GPS tracking or the victim’s phone)
  • Preventing the victim from making their own decisions
  • Telling the victim that they are a bad parent or threatening to hurt, kill, or take away their children
  • Threatening to hurt or kill the victim’s friends, loved ones, or pets
  • Intimidating the victim with guns, knives, or other weapons
  • Pressuring the victim to have sex when they don’t want to or to do things sexually they are not comfortable with
  • Forcing sex with others
  • Refusing to use protection when having sex or sabotaging birth control
  • Pressuring or forcing the victim to use drugs or alcohol
  • Preventing the victim from working or attending school, harassing the victim at either, keeping their victim up all night so they perform badly at their job or in school
  • Destroying the victim’s property

Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN) (en Español)

+1 800 656 HOPE (4673)

RAINN is the world’s largest anti sexual violence organization working with thousands of sexual assault service providers and with the DoD Safe Helpline for the Department of Defense. You can type in your zip code right on the first page and find help nearby. You can also download the DoD app under the DoD Safe Helpline. According to their website, “RAINN also carries out programs to prevent sexual violence, help survivors, and ensure that perpetrators are brought to justice.”

In the UK

Paladin National Stalking Advocacy Service

020 3866 4107   info@paladinservice.co.uk

For listeners who have heard Kris talk about the podcast Real Crime Profile, this is the company one of the cohosts, Laura Richards, founded as a way to advocate for the rights of victims of stalking, coercive control and other forms of abuse. She has been a victim’s rights trailblazer, helping to bring about laws in the UK so victims and victim’s families have a voice; she has raised awareness about dangerous behaviors in abusers that manifest long before physical abuse begins but have been too-long dismissed as victim hysteria or over-reactions. A valuable tool she helped develop is a questionnaire called DASH (2009) Risk Assessment (<<links to the Paladin Advice for Professionals section where a Word document download link can be clicked). Although this form is under the “professionals” section, it can be downloaded by anyone, to be used anywhere in helping to recognize signs of abuse.

To hear our Revelationships episode, go to iTunes, SpotifyOvercast, Libsyn or any podcast player you prefer and then subscribe, download and listen! If you enjoy what you hear, go ahead and leave a review! The more subscribers and reviews we get, the more opportunities we get to grow this podcast and bring you richer content.

And don’t forget to follow us here at themuglytruth.com (click that blue WordPress Follow button on the right side of your screen) so you get notifications every time we post an episode blog! You can also follow The Mugly Truth on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.

 

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Notes from Kris & Kym

The Mugly Truth on iTunes and Spotify!

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We are really there…right on iTunes Podcast listing!

Happy Thursday all dear friends, listeners and droppers-by!

Great news! The Mugly Truth Podcast is now on iTunes, Spotify, and Overcast (a podcast app). Check other podcast apps…you should be able to find us when you search for “The Mugly Truth”!

So please go to iTunes or wherever else you listen to podcasts and subscribe. The more listeners we get, the more opportunities we’ll have to provide richer content and eventually offer merchandise. We’d love to sell t-shirts, mugs, and other tchotchkes right here for all our listeners!!

And like we stated in an early episode, we would also eventually love to give back to the communities and movements that are dear to our hearts by donating select merchandise sales.

SO! SUBSCRIBE at iTunes and write a quick review and leave us a few stars (5 would be AHHHH-MAZINNNNG!)! And follow here, Instagram, Twitter and Facebook for more ways to enjoy The Mugly Truth. We’re also talking about putting the podcast episodes on YouTube at some point, so be on the lookout for the announcement when that is available!

And PLEASE talk to us…your feedback is so valuable. Any thoughts, comments or stories you have that relate to anything we talk about on any of the episodes is so very welcome. Constructive criticism, supportive comments…all are welcome. We love to talk, but boy do we prefer to talk to YOU, that’s why we’re here, so knowing we make your day a little funnier or thought provoking is so good to hear.

Let us know if you have any questions or ideas for topics! Use our contact page to email us at sipsters@themuglytruth.com!

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